On 22nd December I decided to keep a list of concerns that people shared with me over a two-week period. I’m not much of a talker and didn’t expect to have many conversations to draw on. Yet even in brief exchanges, my ears pricked up when people invariably told me their troubles. I was shocked by the number of things I could write after only a couple of days, and realised how often news of problems goes straight over my head. There have only been two days where no one complained about their life: 1st and 2nd January. Probably because we’re all on holidays…
Here’s a short undetailed list of the problems of the average Australians I chat to:
* the Christmas season aggravates the aloneness of the lonely
* some adult children never contact their parents, even at Christmas
* some small children go to one parent’s family on Christmas Day leaving the other parent alone for Christmas
* some struggle to keep their partners happy
* some have the flu or gastro
* others are in hospital
* a few lost their jobs in the pre-Christmas week
* others have been applying for jobs for months with no result
* some have threatening neighbours
I don’t have solutions, but I listen and feel sad with them.
I got the idea of noting down people’s problems after reading the first few paragraphs in the book of Nehemiah. He had asked his brother about the condition of the Jewish remnant that survived the exile, and learnt they were in disgrace and Jerusalem’s wall was broken down. His reaction was to sit down and weep, and then mourn, fast, pray and set about helping them rebuild the wall.
While I haven’t sat and wept, nor mourned or fasted (not possible at Christmas), I have prayed. And like Nehemiah, cupbearer to the king, I have had some opposition, and some success.
Your list is all too familiar.. I can definitely relate.
Thanks for reading this post. As I was writing the list and identifying them as Australian problems, I realised that they are, rather, first world problems. A few of the people I was thinking of have now solved their problem, eg one man who was fired just before Christmas now has a job he enjoys more. And some of the sick have recovered. Still, they needed a listener at the time, and perhaps that helped them.
Having someone to empathize when you’re going through tough times is definitely necessary; go you for being that someone! 🙂